Wednesday, March 28, 2007

GoT tHe ReSuLt...

hi, just came back from the Ministry of Health...
And guess what?!?
it's all clear, fit for work... Mashala!!!
at last, the medical hiatus is over...
another chance to stay for 3 years more...
i got the result fast compared to the standard release time,
which is 2-3 days...
why i got it faster?!?
of course, using my charm, eheemmm!!!
actually, i met this pinay who's working in the Ministry of Health...
she's assigned at the X-ray laboratory...
she's a little bit talkative but considerably nice...
she's quite strict, i have given her my papers...
i was been told to change my clothes and to tie my hair...
unfortunately, i don't have anything to tie my hair (what a day!)...
so then i ask a lady from Bangladesh to lend me her hair tie
and she gladly hand it to me (so nice of her)...
i want to go first, 'coz my colleague is waiting for me
and at the same time we have to go back to office...
I then ask Ms. E if i can go first... she then checked if my hair is tidily tied...
then she said ok... then the chika started and it went like this...
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Ms. E: Uy sa'n ka nag-work?
Me: Ah sa bangko po...
Ms. E: ah ok, saang branch k?
Me: Sa King Abdul Aziz Branch po...
Ms. E: ay lapit pla kyo sa Mashreq Bank
Me: Opo, Katabi po nmen un...
Ms. E: syanga pla, bili k nman nitong tinda ko...
Me: (with curiosity) ano po ung tinda nyo?
Ms. E: eto, "Magic Cream"
Me: ah, alam ko po yan, made in KSA po yan noh
Ms. E: Oo, bili k n mura lang, sa labas kse mahal ung ganito
Me: Eh hindi nman po ako gumagamit nyan eh, teka magkano po b yan?
Ms. E: Mura nga lang, 30 dirhams, sa pinas mahal ito
Me: Sige ate, kuha ko ng isa ibibigay ko sa friend ko
Ms. E: teka ikukuha kita ha...
Me: bayaran ko ate pagtapos ng x-ray
Ms. E: Ok, o pwesto k n...
Me: ok n ho...
Ms. E: ayan tapos n, maganda nman clear...
Me: Salamat po, kunin ko n po ung papel, dalhin ko sa window 3
Ms. E: wag n ako n bahala d2, pag dinala mo dun 2-3 days p aantayin mo
Me: Ganon po b, tagal nman nun...
Ms. E: sige balikan mo n lang saken bukas ng hapon, e2 no. ko twagan mo ko
Me: ay salamat po, kunin ko n lang po bukas, tuloy n po ako...
Ms. E: ocia sige, thank you din, tawag k lang...
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And that's the story behind why i got the result the following day...
Thank you Ms. E for your help!!!

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

MeDiCaL cHeCk-uP...

Today, i'm done with my medical for my residence visa renewal...

gheeezzz, after all i'm still nervous... i'll get the result tomorrow afternoon...

oh god, i hope everything will turn out ok...

When i first have my medical and that was April 2004, it really freaked me out!!! Actually, everything went well the day i'm completing my medical then...

(April 2004 story) after 2 days i requested the office boy from our Sh. Zayed Branch to collect the result... he went there and was been told that i have to go there to repeat the x-ray!!! gosh, what went wrong?!? i asked him, if the hospital staff mentioned anything else... but to no avail, that's the only lines he can deliver to me... the next day, i went to the hospital to check what went wrong... they've told me that i have to repeat it since it was not clear and unreadable...

since i'm left with no other options, i went straight to the x-ray room and pass on the slip to the assigned staff... i'm 3rd in line... it's was almost 12-ish pm then and the health ministry closes at 1-ish pm... gosh, i'm running out of time... finally it's my turn... after the 1st attempt (take note 1st attempt) she check it, still it's not clear, and the staff informed me that the machine is not properly working.... oh man, i need to finish it today, i hate to go back again... then the 2nd attempt, come the 3rd attempt.... at last we made it in the 4th attempt... it shows clear... after my turn they have told the rest of ladies on line to come back 'coz the machine needs to be repaired... holy gracious, i'm so afraid 'coz radiation is bad for our body, but since it is not working properly the radiation would have been working by 5-10%, but still i'm afraid what will be the effect after it... thank god, until now nothing bad happened to me...

after getting the clear result, i went to the next window, this man wants to play with me, damn it... i don't have time for that... this man instructed me to get the signature of the doctor which is sitting at the other wing of the building... it's time pressure... maybe they will be close by the time i get back... what the heck, but then i have to follow... alas, it was singed in a snap... i went back to this man, he's still playing with me... our conversation went like this:

man: hi again, so this is the signed result...
me: yah!
man: very fast huh!!!
me: the doctor was not that busy when i went in his office
man: but this doesn't assure you that you've passed the medical exam
me: and what am i suppose to do then?
man: well, i can click the "unfit" button anytime...
me: but you don't have any proof, that i'm not fit to work
man: it doesn't matter!!!
me: ok wait, i'll call our Bank's PRO and my boss and i'll let them know what happen
man: wait, see what i'm clicking
me: now what?!?
man: it's done & good luck (he pressed the "Fit to Work" button)
me: thanks and i hope i'll not see you again...

this time, i have ask a colleague of mine to accompany me... he was kind enough to help (thanks Mr. A) and our boss are so understanding to allow us to go out during office hours... i hope that what had happened back then will not happen again... well, gotta pray hard what to expect tomorrow...
wishing all the luck!!!


Monday, March 26, 2007

wHaT's mY mOOd 2dAy!!!

oh what a day!!! what a sleepy day!
holy crap, since this morning, i feel like i'm not in the mood to work!!!
actually, there's nothing much, a clean table i may say...
can't stop myself yawning... really i can't help it...
i already miss my hug gable pillow...
gosh, my eyes keeps on blinking, telling me to sleep...


happy, 'coz we already got the result of our Annual Performance Review...
good news!!! i got a B - yuppiee!!! not bad at all!!!
though A is the highest, seems not far to achieve it in the next review!
thanks to my supportive boss, and to my colleagues who have guided and supported me all through out!!!
time really flies so fast, by next month i'll be turning 3 yrs. in the company...
am certainly happy with my career... cheers!!!


despite the happiness, i still feel a bit incomplete... y?!?
i got this feeling all this time, since.... secret!?!?
na-ahhhh, my married life is in fact ideal!!!
sometimes, a sudden thought lingers in our mind
in which we don't know why?!?
maybe 'coz of the baby factor!!!
hmmm, maybe!?! only GOD can answer when...
i believe in him and in the power of prayers...


yah, a pinch of depression!!!
common guys, lets admit it, nobody lives a perfect life!!!
whenever there's ups, there's always the down of it
whenever there's a winner, a loser will be on the other hand
whenever there's positive, negative follows
we can be happy for a moment, but sadness struck in the middle
this is what we call LIFE...
LIFE will not be colorful and blissful if everything appears to be flat...
well, LIFE offers, a never ending and unwinding circle a journey of all kind!!!
i maybe depressed today but i'm not loosing hope that soon this pinch of sad thoughts will be replaced with a beautiful rainbow...

Don't stop, keep on moving, LIFE should go on...
There's always a reason behind all this triumphs!!!
Always face the world with your sweetest smile!!!

Monday, March 19, 2007

FuN wEeKeNd...

GheeeeZzzzZ, finally after a week i'm back to blogging!!!
it's been a busy week and we're really dead tired...
well, have to give some updates...
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Friday, 16th March 2007 @ Jumeirah Beach Park
A Get Together of CBCians HS Batch '94
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(L-R; Rachel, Me, Sheryl, Ethel, Connie, Armie, Luisa & Melanie)


havin' fun... go pretty girls!!!

ohhh, reminiscing HS days was really good (sayang i was late kya di n me nka-chicka masyado, promise next time i'll be early!) all those funny and weird stuffs during the old days... We're all batchmates, but we've never been together in one class, but still anytime, anywhere the bond and the blood of a certified Colejiala is incredibly strong... Guys, we have to do this more often, so next time be ready for lots and lots of chizzzzmaxxx...

Thursday, 15th March 2007 - Baby Marielle's Christening

(on our way to St. Mary's Church)
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(@Al Ghurair Centre --- Chowking --- it's chow time!)

(strike a pose --- still waiting for d food to be served!)

(picture taking while waiting for the meal!)

Congratulations to the Proud Parents of Baby Marielle!!!

We're late for the baptism...
my husband picked me early from the office and we reached home by 3.20-ish PM, we have little time left to refresh ourselves... we're done and left at around 4-ish PM... it's almost at the middle of the ceremony when we arrived, luckily there's still few seats available... the mass ended at 5-ish PM...

After picture taking, two ninangs (god parents) the friends of the mother of the child, have asked for a lift going to the reception, which is 30 mins. away from the church (given travel time includes traffic) maybe they are shy to initiate a conversation with us, well fine let it be... we find it difficult to find a parking slot so my husband told us to go ahead and he'll search for the slot... ok fine, we went down and as i walk across the parking area the 2 ladies are already gone, huwaaaattt?!? not even saying thank you or simply bye... any etiquette left with you guys?!? anyhoo, not to ruin the day, we just ignored it and carry on... it's good that we're not seated on the same table at the reception, otherwise i'll pissed them off... next time they'll ask for lift, i'll make sure that there's no seat available, hummmmp!!!

Strike 1 --- 5.40-ish PM, the party haven't started yet, still waiting for some guests to arrive... Strike 2 --- 6.30-ish, we're still waiting, oh my, we are all hungry... Strike 3 --- 7-ish PM, every body's eyes are popping... at last, few minutes later they decided to start... gosh, thank god not all parties are like this, they'd better be sensitive and considerate... it's not the food that matters, it's how you entertain your guests, if you are the host, yah better have the right manners, don't just let your guests wait, let them be informed... don't be naive, sorry huh, but i'm not only talking for myself but on behalf of the guests who have been patient though their plans for the day was been spoiled 'coz of inconvenience... now i've learned my lesson, eat something before leaving and don't always rely on your presumptions...

New Sharjah Bridge connecting King Faisal and Industrial Areas

(the 2nd day since it opened. picture taken on my honey's B-day!!!)

(The New Bridge - formerly Mother Cat Round About)

i'm about to blog this long way back, but sorry i forgot it...
The bridge was officially opened last 28 Feb 2007...
We hope that this new bridge will ease the heavy traffic...

Monday, March 12, 2007

Quake Hit the Gulf...

Bigger quake possible, says academic
By Ashfaq Ahmed, Staff Reporter
Source: http://www.gulfnews.com/
Date published: 12th March 2007

Dubai: Saturday night's earthquake, that woke residents in Fujairah and Ras Al Khaimah is an indication of a possibly bigger earthquake in the waiting, said a professor at the American University of Sharjah.

"The epicentre of the earthquake, which struck on Saturday night at 10.18pm, was the Arabian Sea, some 74km southwest of Qeshm island of Iran and about 160km from Sharjah and Dubai, said Dr Jamal A. Abdullah, Associate Professor at the Civil Engineering Department of the AUS and In Charge of the AUS Earthquake Observatory Centre. He said the intensity of the quake was 4 on the Richter Scale and it was located 18km deep in the sea.

"It was very close to the place where the earthquake measuring at magnitude 5.9 on Richter Scale struck on November 27, 2005. This is not a good sign. Repeated seismic activities at the same spot indicate a bigger earthquake in the waiting - as big as magnitude 7 on the Richter scale," he said in a post quake analysis which he prepared in association with Aqeel Ahmad, who looks after the AUS's earthquake monitoring centres.
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Not strong
But he said no one knows when it would happen. "There is a probability that it could happen during the next 50 years," he said. Jolts of Saturday night's earthquake were felt in parts of Fujairah and Ras Al Khaimah. "It was not strong enough to cause any damage to buildings and infrastructure," he said. Dr Abdullah said there has been a noticeable increase in the magnitude and frequency of seismic events in the northern region of the UAE.

"There are several earthquake events that took place in recent years and this is the result of increased seismic activity in Southern Zagros fault and Markan subduction zone," he added. He said the UAE sits near the edge of the Arabian Plate adjacent to the Iranian plateau and close to Zagros Fault, which is characterised by high seismic activity.

He said the Iranian plateau frequently suffers destructive and catastrophic earthquakes. "Due to its proximity to the Iranian block, and the recent increase in seismic activity in the region, the UAE is also vulnerable, in varying degrees, to earthquakes that are occurring at and around the Zagros fault," he noted.

Monitoring region since 2000

The American University of Sharjah Earthquake Observatory Centre, which has monitoring nodes in Sharjah, Dibba-Fujairah, Ras Al Khaimah, Masafi and Fujairah, has recorded a number of earthquakes since it was established in December 2000.

Earthquake measuring 5.1 on the Richter Scale in Dibba-Fujairah on March 11, 2002.

Strong tremors recorded in December 2002 and April 2003.

Earthquake in Qeshm on November 27, 2005 measuring 5.9 on the Richter Scale, was felt in most parts of the UAE.

A moderate earthquake was also recorded in Dibba-Fujairah on June 29, 2006.
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A quake hit Northern Emirates last saturday 10th March 2007. While my husby and i are watching Eat Bulaga (Filipino Variety Show) at around 10:30 in the evening, my phone rang, a colleague of mine called.
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Our conversation:
Me: Hello!
Shawie: uy, magandang gabi!
Me: Oh, napatawag ka, gabi na gising pa kayo
Shawie: Nandito kame sa labas ng bahay nmen
Me: Baket?
Shawie: Lumindol kase kaya inilabas ko ung mga bata
Me: ano? ngayon lang ba?
Shawie: Oo, tinawagan nga kita kase itatanong ko kung lumindol jan
Me: Hindi namen naramdaman eh, teka tanong ko kung naramdaman nila...
---PAUSE---
Me: Hello, hindi talaga eh, baka jan lang sa lugar nyo
Shawie: Baka nga. Dito muna kame sa labas baka may after shock pa
Me: Lapit kase kayo sa fault line
Shawie: Oo nga eh, di bale pasok na rin kame sa bahay pag-nagpasukan na rin ung mga kapit bahay nmen.
Me: O sige, ingat at tawag k lang ha! abangan natin sa News bukas
Shawie: Ok, bye goodnight
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We're living in Sharjah while she lives near Fujairah (See Location Map above). The following day, i approached her in the office and it's good to hear that her family is doing fine. UAE is not prone to Quakes, even if this country has the extreme climates (hottest than ever during summer and considerably colder during winter).
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16th July 1990, the strongest quake hit Manila. That's one traumatic incident that most Filipino's had experienced. Many lives was taken, properties was damaged, few high rise buildings collapsed and the entire state was in deep shock. In times like this, everybody should be prepared 'coz we don't know where and when it will hit again.
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Where were you on that day? Were you able to overcome the fear? What did you do to surpass panic?
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Hold on with the power of Prayers, God will show us the way...
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Sunday, March 11, 2007

hApPy ~ sAd ~ hApPy ~ sAd?!?!

phew, i don't know if i'll be happy or sad...
sometimes it's hard to tell what your emotions would be!!!
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hApPy tHoUgHtS...
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1. i'm happy 'coz i'm blessed with the man of my life
2. i'm happy 'coz i'm extremely in love with my better half
3. i'm happy with the life we're living
4. i'm happy with my career
5. i'm happy 'coz i'm loved with the people i love
6. i'm happy with my friends
7. i'm happy with my office colleagues
8. i'm happy with the things i have
9. i'm happy doing my own craft
10. i'm happy with my surroundings
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sAd tHoUgHtS...
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1. i'm sad 'coz i'm miles from home
2. i'm sad 'coz i missed my family
3. i'm sad 'coz i missed my relatives and friends
4. i'm sad 'coz i feel incomplete
5. i'm sad 'coz i can't find what i'm looking for
6. i'm sad 'coz i'm lost
7. i'm sad 'coz i think there's something lacking
8. i'm sad 'coz i'm searching somethings which i don't know
9. i'm sad 'coz i'm afraid to be knocked off
10. i'm sad 'coz i feel there's something missing
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my heart and mind squabbled...
i'll be sarcastic if i'll say that i'm OK, while i'm NOT...
let my emotions subside then i'll help myself to carry on...
how many times will i break the promise i have made...
i've swear to myself and in front of GOD that i'll cry no more...
but i can't help it, so i'd rather let it out...
tell me how can i overcome the ramblings inside of me...
madness is trying to over powered me...
let faith manipulate my sanity...
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i'm willing to wait, but let me know how long it will take...
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I am standing here and waiting 'till the Clock Tick in God's Time...
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Wednesday, March 07, 2007

Marriage Tips...

11 Relationships & Marriage Tips

Take a Leap of Faith
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Most people do not intentionally harm those they love. The majority of things that trigger feelings of hurt, in close relationships, are never meant to have that outcome. No matter how upset you are, make a leap of faith that the other person loves you and wants you happy. When you attribute the problem to miscommunication vs. he/she doesn’t care, it diffuses some of the emotional charge. This offers more clarity to your perspective.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: I agree with that, always look at things at the positive side. Never be a pessimist ‘coz it doesn’t help the relationship grow. Faith is really important, once you believe nothing is impossible. Miscommunication makes the problems more complicated, don’t let the day end without settling such misunderstanding.

"Win" with Compassion
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Compassion When someone does something we do not like, we tend to focus on what they did wrong. We judge. We criticize. We point out what we deem to be their faults. The person in turn feels hurt or angry. Conflict or distance occur. This is not helpful to anyone. There is no need to assign blame or prove who did what. Disengage from this lose – lose pattern! Instead, focus on the other person’s experience, empathize, look for how to help. Someone can not remain angry, hurt, or keep arguing when your response is one of compassion.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: Be compassionate is really essential in a certain relationship. Finger pointing is such a crap thing. Blaming or judging one another will not keep a relationship intact. When such things happen, the fall back is that your partner will be angrier, though in certain marriage issues there is always the protagonist and antagonist. Now, who is who? To blame is not the solution, try to patch up things by knowing what’s the cause so as not to let the same issue play part in the future. And if required, seek advice from families or friends to solve the problem.

Reacting, bad. Responding, good.
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Emotions are just emotions. They are not right or wrong, good or bad. However, when you operate from a place where you allow your emotions to propel reactions, problems result. Allow yourself to have whatever emotions you have. Acknowledge them as how you feel. Then, decide how you want to respond. Reactions are derived from emotions alone; responses have the advantage of consulting with your brain before taking action.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: Don’t be carried away with emotions. I’m not saying we can not rely on our emotions it’s just that we have to balance things and try to consider aspects. Don’t’ just allow emotions to play a big part in solving the problem. You have to think and weigh the cause, sometimes being too emotional make the issues more complicated. I suggest in making decisions consider both your brain and heart.

Is Your Spouse Lonely?
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How much time do you spend talking with your spouse each week? Couples therapists say it's important to have time together to connect, and to have conversations that aren't about kids or household chores. Schedule a "date night," even if it's just a little down time in the living room after the kids are in bed. Write your date nights on your calendars and stick to the date night plans. If your relationship is troubled, don't spend date nights trying to solve your problems. Instead, build up a fund of positive experiences by finding things to do that you both enjoy. Schedule separate time for relationship talks and therapy. Everyone needs to relax, and your spouse deserves your full attention.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: Quality time is very important. Find time once in a while to at least tell a story about your day. An even simple thing counts, by simply asking how’s office or does he/she has tons of work loads and so on so forth. The best time to spend talking is before setting yourself to bed. Before dozing yourself to sleep make sure that you were able to discuss how your day was and other thingies.

Ghosts of the Past
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Sometimes, the problems in a marriage are problems that started before you even met your partner. These "ghosts" can cause miscommunication, anxieties, and problems with money, power, and sex. A wife who was raped in the past may have trouble experiencing her partner's gentle sexual advances as expressions of love. A husband who had trouble with a previous cheating spouse may be hyper vigilant in his current marriage, looking for signs of infidelity where they don't exist. Sometimes, just talking about the "ghosts," asking questions like "What has happened like this in the past?", is enough to lay them to rest. If the ghosts are persistent and troubling enough, couples therapy may be needed to help you both understand their power and separate the past from the present.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: The “ghost” thing can’t help you to move one. This case would give your relationship a certain wall. Don’t let this”ghost” hunt and over power you. Let bygones be bygones, don’t let the past manipulate your relationship, maneuver your life going to the right direction. Never talk about the past if the wound is not yet healed ‘coz it’s not the right way of healing, it’s more likely you’re stabbing him/her again on the same wound. Make sure you both agreed and accepted the “ghost” within you.

Separate Lives
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The most important thing partners in a marriage can do to prevent a cheating partner is to make sure your lives include time together, and to make that time a priority.Sometimes, work and family demands are urgent enough that they take over. The important thing is to remember that this is a crisis mode, and not to let it become your regular lifestyle. When you don't have time to make love, eat a meal together, or have a conversation during the week, it's time to make some changes.When you do have time together, plan to spend it in ways that allow you to reconnect. Movies and TV aren't as good for this as exercising together or going out to eat -- something that lets you talk while you unwind. Even something as simple as grocery shopping can be a chance to catch up and keep a healthy relationship going.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: As what I have mentioned earlier, time for each other is very important. When you get married, the getting to know thing doesn’t stop from there. Married life gives you more chance to know each other better. The fact that you’re staying in one roof and sleeping in one bed is considered another adjustment. Always set a time for you to bond, even at home or outside. If both of you have something similar like you’re either fond of watching Movies or shopping, we’ll that would always be considered the perfect time for both of you to tag along. Finding time for each other is essential in a relationship.

One-Night Stands
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Sometimes, if the opportunity arises, a husband or wife who wouldn't contemplate a long-term affair may indulge in a one-night stand or brief fling. While some moments of infidelity go unnoticed and unmentioned after the one time, it's still a bad idea to succumb to an opportunity to cheat. For one thing, "private" acts have a way of becoming known, particularly in small communities like a workplace. Also, a spouse who cheats once and gets away with it may find infidelity becoming a habit.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: Trust and respect is needed to overcome this subject. Nevertheless, this accounts the weakness of a person. But sometimes, short comings / falls of your partner push him/her to sudden deviation of desire or attention to other party. Make sure to a lot time and be responsible in your relationship.

One-Night Stands
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Both men and women can suffer from medical problems and hormone imbalances that get in the way of physical desire. The first step in treating lack of sexual desire may be to visit your doctor. Women in particular often suffer loss of libido for emotional as well as physical reasons. Relationship issues, past experiences of abuse, and societal expectations about women's sexuality may play into feelings of uninterest or inadequacy. Counseling is especially important in treating these issues and reaching a compromise with a more passionate partner.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: Our body’s desire is normal. Sex is part of Married Life, in this case compromising is important. Don’t make love just for the sake of “lust” or “urge”, Sex should be done in a passionate way. There are times that your other half is not in the mood to make love, it doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t love you or enjoy making love with you. Of course you have to be sensitive, if one’s body is dead sick because of work or emotional distress definitely it will not be the right time. Saying “NO” is not convincing, state what you feel and explain why, to make your other half worry free. This will help your partner to keep him/her out of paranoia.

Money and Marriage
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Money becomes a symbol for power in many marriages, and each partner brings expectations, fears, and hopes around money into the relationship when it begins. In addition, many cheating spouses are discovered not because of their extramarital sex, but because of their extramarital spending. One important step is to give both partners information and access to money that belongs to them both. On a practical note, this can prevent problems if the partner who does most of the bookkeeping and bill-paying becomes ill or disabled. Within a relationship, it sends a message that both partners are adults who have responsibilities for managing their joint resources. Another useful ground rule is a limit on big-ticket items. A good budget includes an amount of "mad money" -- even $25 per month, if that's what you can afford -- for each partner to spend without consulting the other. It also includes an agreement not to spend more than a certain amount without consulting one another, and a list of financial goals that both partners have set together.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: Money matters. Other couple (or should I say as practice on different cultures) money or budgeting is mostly handled by the wife (but other cultures do the opposite). If you are the wife and you do budgeting it doesn’t mean that you’ll be the only one who’ll have an access to both of your money which the law states that what the couple have is considered “Conjugal Property”. Give the right to your partner to have an access in your account, and considering that he/she earns for both your living. It’s very important to let your partner know what you spend and buying personal stuffs should also be discussed so as not to bypass your other half. Considerably nowadays, there are men who can handle budgeting ideally.

Religion and Marriage
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Having a religion in common can help draw a couple together, so it's a destabilizing influence when one partner starts getting interested in another faith or loses interest in religion altogether. What's important is to respect one another's right to be spiritual individuals, and to reassure one another of your continuing love. The ability to stay emotionally honest, to hear one another's truths even when they are uncomfortable, is important when spiritual differences start to crop up. Look for the common spiritual ground you share -- perhaps a love of nature, or a belief in helping people in need -- and make time to explore that ground together.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: Let God the center of your relationship. This one big factor in marriage, going in a common church establish the couples closeness to God. Different faith usually causes certain gap in the relationship ‘coz of different beliefs on different sects. But the respect and acceptance of your partner reassures you that he/she is giving you the freedom on your spiritual beliefs. Even if you are both living in different beliefs, I am sure that you’ll find a match in certain aspects in your religion, like doing charity works. What matters most are the assurance of undying LOVE and the fulfillment of the vow “Till Death Do Us Part”.

Stages of a Marriage
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Every marriage is different, but there are some predictable stages that most couples go through: -- Romance: The first one to five years involve discovering one another and building a foundation of affection and passion. Besides enjoying yourselves, it's a good idea to realize that the rest of your marriage will be patterned on what happens now. -- Coping: For some couples, reality sets in quickly with the birth of a first child. Other couples may go a few years before the romantic stage fades, often triggered by a major life event such as a job loss, a move, or a parent's death. The marriage tends to take a back seat to making a living, caring for a family, and other commitments. -- Rediscovery: Sometimes it takes couples therapy and hard work to get to this stage. Other times it happens naturally, as the kids grow up and the jobs settle down and you both begin to plan the latter part of your lives. The work of this stage is to let go of old resentments and appreciate the person you married.

“Unquote” -williamaanne-: “Getting to Know” is in deed a long process. Each day in couple’s life is considered part of the learning process. Expect the least expected that this and this will suddenly pop up. Be ready to face the daily worst (ever) and best (ever) scenario. Slowly you’ll find each others catch. There should be certain electricity in romance. Keep your relationship alive, establish new things, don’t stop popping surprises, and make your relationship bubblier each and every day. Having a child doesn’t mean stopping romance, having a child add excitement and spirit of happiness which completes you as a family and makes the bond more intact. Be appreciative and never end a day without saying the magical words “I Love You”.

Live and be happy!!!

Source: life tips – Move Up in Life (www.relationship.lifetips.com)

Tuesday, March 06, 2007

Some Tips On Marriage...


HOW TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
Tips for the Bride and Groom


10 Tips For The Bride

Don't keep telling him about all the other men you could have married.
Don't bring out the bills at breakfast.
Don't start a conversation with him while he's reading or watching a sports event on TV.
Don't correct him in front of other people.
Don't try to make him jealous.
Don't bad-mouth his relatives.
Don't put a shirt in his drawer with a button missing.
Don't call him at work unless it's absolutely necessary.
Don't use his razor.
Don't threaten to leave him unless you have a better place to go.



10 Tips For The Groom

Never forget her birthday, anniversary,or Valentine's Day. A kiss, a card or a single rose could save the day.
Don't keep talking about beautiful chicks at work.
Don't turn on the radio, TV or pick up something to read, when she's trying to talk to you.
Don't bring a friend home to dinner without advance notice.
Don't use her car and return it with an empty gas tank.
If you know you're going to be late getting home, call and tell her.
Don't try to make her jealous.
Don't look like a slob all weekend -- unless she looks worse.
When you know you're wrong, admit it.
Never criticize her in the presence of others.



Thursday, March 01, 2007

it's my hOnEy's B-day!!!


hApPy BiRtHdAy hOnEy!!!

wishing yOu All the best...

(do you like my gift?!? - promise to always wear it!!!)

LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! - maanne